As all of you here remember, save for maybe those noobs Gagan and Rebel Ecks, things went horribly bad for me and my wife nearly a year ago now.  What you probably forgot is that pretty early on we informed ourselves about the possibilities of another pregnancy.  We were told that, yes, we can get pregnant again, but specialists had very varying opinions on how long we should wait before trying again as to avoid any risk of the scar nog having fully healed.  We heard timeframes ranging from 6 months to a year and a half.  The specialist who seemed most qualified to us simply stated that as long as my wife didn't have any contractions, it really didn't matter much and we'd be fine if we waited about 6 months.

So that's what we did, and to great success.  The baby is set to arrive in September, but since we'll be schedualed for an early ceasar section, it'll probably be end August to early September.  Usually things like this are happy events.  Now however, it is very mixed.  My wife is still working part-time and receiving a sum on the side for being partially unfit to work from some institution or other.  She'll still cry on a daily basis.  She still can't stand the sight of baby's who have been born after our little girl.  We haven't seen a lot of our friends in over a year for that exact reason.  We're still seeing a therapist every other week.

Basically, we got pregnant again this fast because it was the reasonable thing to do.  We're not getting any younger, and we didn't want the gap with our son to be too large.  Mentally however, this is way too soon.

And last but not least, and nobody, not even our son, knows of this, it's going to be a boy.  Before we even started with kids, my wife always said she wanted only boys.  After what happened last May, you can see how this is now a double edged sword.  We'll be very happy if we get to keep this second boy, which should work out fine, but there'll forever be a gap in our family, something we didn't get to experience.

Well, I'm still sorry about what you went through to get to this point, but that being said congratulations. I have a friend who unfortunately went through something similar and he and his wife waited about two years, and they regret waiting that long. So, no matter what you did I'm not sure there wouldn't be some questions on what was right. Hopefully this will be a big help for your wife too. And hey man... BABY!!!! It'll be awesome. Again, congrats.

And you know... Robio is a great name for a boy. Boys named Robio are popular and get lots of sex in highschool. Just sayin'...

Only just saw this now.  I hope this will in some way help your wounds to heal even though your loss will always be immense and nothing can change that.  I wish you good strength and good luck.

Thanks for all the well wishes guys.  Went to see the gynaecologist in the meantime, and all is well.  We were told that they'll wait as long as possible with the ceasar section, or until there are medical reasons to intervene, or until my wife's nerves snap.

Iga_Bobovic said:

Good luck with that! And from my understanding what happened before was 1 in a billion shot that should not happen again!

True.  Everyone knows it, as does my wife.  But it's hard to reason with fear.