Who was he?
A guy I worked with for the past two summers and went to college with his wife. Died suddenly and without warning in a fatal car crash yesterday morning.
I feel really bad for his wife and kids... getting a phone call like that must be one of the worst things you can have happen in your life. So if it's any consolation, at least you got to say goodbye to your grandma and saw it coming, and she had a good full life. Not to downplay it or anything... but to me that's the worst way to have a loved one go is to not even have the chance to say goodbye. Then for the next 20 years you'll be regretting not telling them that you loved them when they left that morning... what if they just took the day off... what if they left 5 minutes later. What if the city had just put in that stoplight on that known unsafe corner they've been planning for years.
One of my favourite quotes... from LOTR
"I wish none of this had happened."
"So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide, all we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us."
Also
"It's like in the great stories. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger they were. And sometimes you didn’t want to know the end… because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing… this shadow. Even darkness must pass."
I wanted to say something in the other thread, but thought I'd let this event run its course before I introduce my sort of opinion.
Death happens. It's sometimes tragic and, more often than not, it's frustrating. But the best you can do is man up, and see things through in the end. Even as someone who doesn't know you in any way, it was depressing to read how you were struggling, and even losing interest in your favourite hobbies. Hopefully now you can let all this drama pass, and just relax.
I'm not one to always take advice from church signs, but one I read did have a point: The hardships in life are suppose to make us better, not bitter.
Listen to Iced Earth and play Doom
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Sorry to hear that Leo. Sounds like she had a great run though, 89 is nothing to scoff at. Hope you don't take it too hard. Best wishes.
My condolences to you. It seems she had a good life and is now at peace. I wish you well.
Yarcofin said:A guy I worked with for the past two summers and went to college with his wife. Died suddenly and without warning in a fatal car crash yesterday morning.
I feel really bad for his wife and kids... getting a phone call like that must be one of the worst things you can have happen in your life. So if it's any consolation, at least you got to say goodbye to your grandma and saw it coming, and she had a good full life. Not to downplay it or anything... but to me that's the worst way to have a loved one go is to not even have the chance to say goodbye. Then for the next 20 years you'll be regretting not telling them that you loved them when they left that morning... what if they just took the day off... what if they left 5 minutes later. What if the city had just put in that stoplight on that known unsafe corner they've been planning for years.
Grandma was a long time coming and was expected. She had nearly 89 years of life. Her story is sad.
30 years old with a wife and kids? To go that way, out of the blue and randomly? That is painfully tragic.
Although I am some unknown guy somewhere out in the world that will never meet your friend, please tell her my heart goes out to her and I'll say a prayer for her and her kids.
Iga_Bobovic said:So Leo how are you doing?
Very sad right now. Very tired too. When grandma passed, ironically enough, my Mother and I were the only ones strong enough to go the hospital to say goodbye. Then we made the arrangements and carried on from there.
I need some time to rest. I also need to come to grips with both facts: she's no longer in pain AND she's really gone from my life.
Funeral's tomorrow.
I've been playing Mahjong on the PS3 of all things, just to pass the time. The compulsion to game has been replaced with plain old weariness.
I'm reading posts, posting jokes, trying to cheer myself up... but this is gonna take some time.
Thanks Iga and everyone...
I'm sad to hear that Leo, my best wishes to you.
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