My dad who's 80 and has bladder cancer texted me at midnight when I was asleep that he thought he was dying and to look after the cat if he's dead by morning.
It's freaked me out a bit as I was with him the day before and he was fine.
He's been very secretive over he treatment and how he mentally feels about it.and just acts normally. He was even mowing the lawn on Sunday even when I offered to do it.
He had chemo yesterday and the reality of his passing is dawning on me.
Have you guys had a parent die and how did you cope with it?
I've had a couple of those text messages from my dad too.. It's really scary.
Both of my parents are still doing well enough in their early 70s, but they are both in declining health, especially my dad. How different they were just 10 years ago....
My dad passed in 2013 at the age of 62. He was almost 63 and one month before my daughter was born. He had two heart attacks at ages 47 and 49 and one stroke at the age of 53. To tell you the truth he had been in decline for so long that I was sort of numb to his death. We didn't expect him to live to see 50. Every now and then it hits me and I get emotional (like typing this now) but we speak fondly about him and are rarely sad about it. The thing about it is when I reached 47 I started to be concerned like I am destined to follow in his footsteps and have a heart attack too. I live a much healthier lifestyle but there's always that lingering concern. I really would love to see my grandkids and provide for them in a way that my children missed out on.
My parents are still alive but are in their 80’s now. I’ll definitely be sad when they pass but feel like they’ve had a pretty good life so I guess I’ve mentally prepared myself for their passing.
My parents are still very much aive and kicking, so are those of my wife. I am however very much aware that they are now at an age where that could all change in an instant. I can only imagine that losing a parent must be one of the toughest things... They represent your history, your failsafe and when they're gone it's all so very clear that you're next.
My dad who's 80 and has bladder cancer texted me at midnight when I was asleep that he thought he was dying and to look after the cat if he's dead by morning.
It's freaked me out a bit as I was with him the day before and he was fine.
He's been very secretive over he treatment and how he mentally feels about it.and just acts normally. He was even mowing the lawn on Sunday even when I offered to do it.
He had chemo yesterday and the reality of his passing is dawning on me.
Have you guys had a parent die and how did you cope with it
Pardon my spelling here, I don't have my glasses on.
First of all, I hope you can get through this with peace and strength, but ultimately my wishes are futile. But still hopefull.
My Dad pursued another ten years of life by getting his stints in his heart valves repalced, I told him not to, but he did and he got his wish. Regrettably. The anesthesiologist screwed up and cut off oxygen to his brain during hte surgery and he had multiple strokes. He was abused through negligence for another year through the state health system until I raised my voice and got him into physio. He spent the next 11 years not being able to function and drifted into dementia.
How did I cope with it? We were not close. And after 10 years it was a relief. But I still miss him.
My advice, spend as much time as you can ansd ask him as much about his past as possible. Become a research student of his life.
My dad passed in 2013 at the age of 62. He was almost 63 and one month before my daughter was born. He had two heart attacks at ages 47 and 49 and one stroke at the age of 53. To tell you the truth he had been in decline for so long that I was sort of numb to his death. We didn't expect him to live to see 50. Every now and then it hits me and I get emotional (like typing this now) but we speak fondly about him and are rarely sad about it. The thing about it is when I reached 47 I started to be concerned like I am destined to follow in his footsteps and have a heart attack too. I live a much healthier lifestyle but there's always that lingering concern. I really would love to see my grandkids and provide for them in a way that my children missed out on.
Too young. I share your experience pretty much 100%
My advice, spend as much time as you can ansd ask him as much about his past as possible. Become a research student of his life.
This is great advice.
Yeah it is. I tried that and went on a citytrip with my dad last year. Lets just say our family aren't the best talkers. We had a nice couple of days, but we came no closer.
I often wonder, if he should pass away tomorrow, what would I even say on his funeral? He's always been there for me, but I don't feel llike I really know him.
Hey guys what's going on... OH. Sorry to hear that GG, that is very scary. My parents are alive but had a small scare and it's the first time my dad mentioned to me about funerals and arrangements, that was hard to hear. We are getting up there, it's going to start to happen...
I bought Nier Automata on Switch at the beginning of summer, only started playing this week. And then only about an hour. I didn't know much about this game, other than that it looked like something I'd want to play. Turns out it's some kind of action game/bullet hell hybrid? It's pretty cool, although the button mapping seems odd? It reminds me of PN.03 a bit in that your character looks very cool and nimble, but actually controls a bit slow and not very fluently.
What also struck me is how dated it looks. Granted, it released 8 years ago, but even as a Switch game it looks old. And it seems to take itself very serious as well. As someone who's always been predominently a Nintendo gamer, it's like stepping into a different reality where games are serious and much less colourful.
I bought Nier Automata on Switch at the beginning of summer, only started playing this week. And then only about an hour. I didn't know much about this game, other than that it looked like something I'd want to play. Turns out it's some kind of action game/bullet hell hybrid? It's pretty cool, although the button mapping seems odd? It reminds me of PN.03 a bit in that your character looks very cool and nimble, but actually controls a bit slow and not very fluently.
What also struck me is how dated it looks. Granted, it released 8 years ago, but even as a Switch game it looks old. And it seems to take itself very serious as well. As someone who's always been predominently a Nintendo gamer, it's like stepping into a different reality where games are serious and much less colourful.
Use the Switch 2 button remapping feature. It's great.
I especially hate the run button being mapped to pressing the left stick in.
I've been watching Cyberpunk videos and trying to grab all the unique and free gear. Whilst finding someone these locations is fun, often the item in the video isnt there and its something random.
Finally wrote my Mario Kart World review. I did finish DK today, will do a review later this week. Great game, don't think it ever reaches the highs of Mario though.
I mentioned that my sister borrowed my PS5 and my copy of Kena Bridge of Spirts a couple weeks ago. Well, she finished that game yesterday. She said she really liked it, but the difficulty spikes were too much even on Story mode and she would never want to replay it again. She usually replays her games multiple times through (she's beaten PS4 Hogwarts Legacy five or six times all the way through, for example), but not Kena. Nope. Nada. She's done with it forever.
Since I had the PS5 version of Hogwarts Legacy installed, she decided to check it out just to see the graphical differences before returning my PS5. Big mistake. She's playing it on Fidelity mode at 1080p and she went on and on last night about how there's so much more in the PS5 version, more people, more elves, more furniture, more reflections, better animated pictures and the lighting looks so much better. She said, "OMG! There's so much missing in the PS4 version! I had no idea!"
Well, it seems I'm not going to get my PS5 back anytime soon. She's requested another couple weeks to play through Hogwarts again with a new character. Maybe I should just upgrade to the Pro and let her have it? $700, though. *sigh*
Nah. I'm playing Forza 8 all weekend instead, mostly working my way through Forza 20th Anniversary Tour in Career mode, which is a bit of a throwback to the first 7 games.
My sister informed me that my 3 year old Dualsense controller's right stick has stick drift. I'll have to see it for myself but that's BS if true. It was working fine before I loaned her my PS5. I accused her of getting Cheeto dust in it.
It was still better than the guy in the black turtleneck pretending he was in the game.
I can barely write this.
My dad who's 80 and has bladder cancer texted me at midnight when I was asleep that he thought he was dying and to look after the cat if he's dead by morning.
It's freaked me out a bit as I was with him the day before and he was fine.
He's been very secretive over he treatment and how he mentally feels about it.and just acts normally. He was even mowing the lawn on Sunday even when I offered to do it.
He had chemo yesterday and the reality of his passing is dawning on me.
Have you guys had a parent die and how did you cope with it?
Both of my parents are still doing well enough in their early 70s, but they are both in declining health, especially my dad. How different they were just 10 years ago....
My dad passed in 2013 at the age of 62. He was almost 63 and one month before my daughter was born. He had two heart attacks at ages 47 and 49 and one stroke at the age of 53. To tell you the truth he had been in decline for so long that I was sort of numb to his death. We didn't expect him to live to see 50. Every now and then it hits me and I get emotional (like typing this now) but we speak fondly about him and are rarely sad about it. The thing about it is when I reached 47 I started to be concerned like I am destined to follow in his footsteps and have a heart attack too. I live a much healthier lifestyle but there's always that lingering concern. I really would love to see my grandkids and provide for them in a way that my children missed out on.
My parents are still alive but are in their 80’s now. I’ll definitely be sad when they pass but feel like they’ve had a pretty good life so I guess I’ve mentally prepared myself for their passing.
My parents are still very much aive and kicking, so are those of my wife. I am however very much aware that they are now at an age where that could all change in an instant. I can only imagine that losing a parent must be one of the toughest things... They represent your history, your failsafe and when they're gone it's all so very clear that you're next.
Pardon my spelling here, I don't have my glasses on.
First of all, I hope you can get through this with peace and strength, but ultimately my wishes are futile. But still hopefull.
My Dad pursued another ten years of life by getting his stints in his heart valves repalced, I told him not to, but he did and he got his wish. Regrettably. The anesthesiologist screwed up and cut off oxygen to his brain during hte surgery and he had multiple strokes. He was abused through negligence for another year through the state health system until I raised my voice and got him into physio. He spent the next 11 years not being able to function and drifted into dementia.
How did I cope with it? We were not close. And after 10 years it was a relief. But I still miss him.
My advice, spend as much time as you can ansd ask him as much about his past as possible. Become a research student of his life.
Too young. I share your experience pretty much 100%
This is great advice.
Yeah it is. I tried that and went on a citytrip with my dad last year. Lets just say our family aren't the best talkers. We had a nice couple of days, but we came no closer.
I often wonder, if he should pass away tomorrow, what would I even say on his funeral? He's always been there for me, but I don't feel llike I really know him.
Hey guys what's going on... OH. Sorry to hear that GG, that is very scary. My parents are alive but had a small scare and it's the first time my dad mentioned to me about funerals and arrangements, that was hard to hear. We are getting up there, it's going to start to happen...
My dad is very stuck in his ways. I was hoping to travel with him once he retired but he never wanted to.
I spend a lot of time with him but I feel like being around him constantly is going to make it devastating when he goes.
I bought Nier Automata on Switch at the beginning of summer, only started playing this week. And then only about an hour. I didn't know much about this game, other than that it looked like something I'd want to play. Turns out it's some kind of action game/bullet hell hybrid? It's pretty cool, although the button mapping seems odd? It reminds me of PN.03 a bit in that your character looks very cool and nimble, but actually controls a bit slow and not very fluently.
What also struck me is how dated it looks. Granted, it released 8 years ago, but even as a Switch game it looks old. And it seems to take itself very serious as well. As someone who's always been predominently a Nintendo gamer, it's like stepping into a different reality where games are serious and much less colourful.
Use the Switch 2 button remapping feature. It's great.
I especially hate the run button being mapped to pressing the left stick in.
I've been watching Cyberpunk videos and trying to grab all the unique and free gear. Whilst finding someone these locations is fun, often the item in the video isnt there and its something random.
Feel a bit cheated by these youtubers
Finally wrote my Mario Kart World review. I did finish DK today, will do a review later this week. Great game, don't think it ever reaches the highs of Mario though.
I mentioned that my sister borrowed my PS5 and my copy of Kena Bridge of Spirts a couple weeks ago. Well, she finished that game yesterday. She said she really liked it, but the difficulty spikes were too much even on Story mode and she would never want to replay it again. She usually replays her games multiple times through (she's beaten PS4 Hogwarts Legacy five or six times all the way through, for example), but not Kena. Nope. Nada. She's done with it forever.
Since I had the PS5 version of Hogwarts Legacy installed, she decided to check it out just to see the graphical differences before returning my PS5. Big mistake. She's playing it on Fidelity mode at 1080p and she went on and on last night about how there's so much more in the PS5 version, more people, more elves, more furniture, more reflections, better animated pictures and the lighting looks so much better. She said, "OMG! There's so much missing in the PS4 version! I had no idea!"
Well, it seems I'm not going to get my PS5 back anytime soon. She's requested another couple weeks to play through Hogwarts again with a new character. Maybe I should just upgrade to the Pro and let her have it? $700, though. *sigh*
This cannot stand.