Dvader said:

Damn GG well you got the rest of your family on your side, join forces and tell him to shape up or fuck off.

Don't know about that. When he realised he and his wife were going to lose babysitting support he rushed over on Saturday to try and sweet talk mom. He's had these kinds of "our relationship is over" talk with her several times over the years.

He didn't say a word to me so I just left. Today when I tried to explain how he affects others his reply was "Whatever, it goes without saying that you are not welcome in my house or near my kids."

I have a feeling moms caved though and will go back to normal relations and dad is pretty much clueless and a pussy towards him so it doesn't matter what happens between them.

I'm balls deep into Yakuza 3.

To me, this 3rd game is better than the first two. It just feels more polished and the world feels much more alive than Yakuza 1 & 2. I'm really digging it. The story is great, the characters are awesome, and it can be both funny and serious when it wants. Just hit the end of chapter 11, and I gotta say that scene was one of the first times I've been a bit choked up playing a game in awhile.

I'm feeling pretty low guys. Feels like 30 years of anger and resentment are being relived today.

My brother always could turn the knife and make others feel like shit, that's his speciality. Now I can't even see my nephews.

Don't even know what to say. This is hard.

travo said:

GG, I'm sure it's hard.  You have to remember, it's him not you. I say stay staying in the house is the worst thing for you now.  Get out of the house, find an outlet.  Something to get your mind off of things.  I think it's important that you stand your ground and not give in to him.

Being here is my outlet. It's freezing outside and not safe to drive when angry or upset. Don't think I'll be getting much sleep tonight. It's hard, he's such a callous person and I've always been the good brother. Part of me still can't let it go because we're related. He's such a giant cock though it's hard to fathom.

GG do not let what others say hurt you, you know you are in the right, who gives a crap what that guy says. Stand your ground, what you did is not keeping you from your nephews, he is. My brother has gone insane and is a religious nut and doesn't let any of the family see the nephews and he never leaves the house. He talks to us every once and a while, months will go by. He says it is a phase, whatever, IT IS ON HIM, not me. Don't let it bug you.

Anyway watch the kevin smith video, it will cheer you up.

Dvader said:

GG do not let what others say hurt you, you know you are in the right, who gives a crap what that guy says. Stand your ground, what you did is not keeping you from your nephews, he is. My brother has gone insane and is a religious nut and doesn't let any of the family see the nephews and he never leaves the house. He talks to us every once and a while, months will go by. He says it is a phase, whatever, IT IS ON HIM, not me. Don't let it bug you.

Wait, is that true or are you giving me an alternative spin on my situation?

edgecrusher said:

Your brother sounds like the asshole brother in the movie We're The Millers with Jennifer Aniston. I think that's the movie I'm thinking of...the guy has a total douche brother and they go over his house so they can borrow his car or something.

He sounds like someone who wants everything his way, and when people don't give it to him he flies off the handle and doesn't wanna speak to you, as if its YOUR fault. I can only say one thing about people like this:

Thanks guys, it's really good to talk to you.

Yeah if I was in that situation, I would probably go out & do something, especially if I had family who kept bringing it up and I couldn't get away from it at home. Or if I stayed home, I would get some beer and crank up some music until I felt better and everyone left me alone. But that's just how I roll. Everyone is different.

You know how this ridiculousness blew up? It's so stupid it's not even funny.

The thing between him and mom has been brewing for years and she's been on the brink of cutting him off on several occasions. Anyhow, I asked his wife if I could store a small tv like 17" in his house which is pretty big and which has loft/roof storage. So after about 5 days he calls me bitching about it and expects me to drop everything and drive a 1 and a half hour round trip immediately to pick it up like I've left cocaine in his house or something.

I politely refuse, he says he'll put it in my moms trunk on Sunday when she goes over and I say okay. The phone cuts out. I go upstairs to take a shit, whilst walking up the stairs he calls back and leaves a message. When I come down and listen to the message it's him cursing me out in the foulest of turns, calling me a fucking lazy cock and ranting like a madman for me to pick up my "shit" even when he's left his shit in my drawers and cupboards for well over a decade and I've never bugged him about it. Then he goes on some self important rant about how his life is so great and how it's everybody elses reponsibility to pander to him and his children. He then has to gall to try and turn the conversation in a life mocking rant about how my life is nothing but "play Nintendo" which is like me summing up his life by saying he went to Ibiza once and knocked up some chick.

I try to explain to him that because of India when I get the sudden urge to crap I have to go immerdiately and can't control it. He says its a fucking excuses and he's tired of my moaning. Then he goes on some rant because I couldn't drive to his house every week for 6 weeks to take his kid swimming on a Saturday. I asked if he could schedule it later or for Sundays instead, he said no and I thought that was over. Instead he suddenly goes into Hulk rage mode and starts shitting all over me saying its all just excuses, fuck this, fuck that, you lazy cock etc.

And instead of just apologising the guy basically keeps digging and digging being the biggest cockbag I've ever seen. In all my life he's never once said sorry for anything he's every done and he's constantly irritable and angry, unpredictably of course. Since having kids he's only gotten worse like he's some fucking king in his castle and the rest of us are there for his every beck and call. And for me, this is just the latest incident in a long line of bullshit he's perpetrated my whole life. So it's just come to a sad point where as sad as it is, even if my life was miserable it would still be better without him in it. I feel sorry for his kids because they're cool, but he frequently has rage at them too.  

gamingeek said:

Wow. So messed up how family can be. Me and my dad have always been laid back easygoing people, so messed up to have this irate rage bomb as a brother.

The sucky thing is that yes they are tied to you forever but unless they are in actual life and death danger you can pretty much ignore them.

You said it perfectly, you are sooo much better off without him.  If he calls, you should consider not talking.  Sounds like he will never change and consider this a start at better mental health for you. It's sad about the nephews but it's for the best to not look back.