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Tell me to get back to rewriting this site so it's not horrible on mobileBesides blogs are there for venting!
This is something that I've thought about a lot today actually, as I was thinking about Google Buzz and social media and why it threatens me.
But, in addition to being non-social, I'm also very private, so I can't elaborate much here.
I would encourage you to challenge your thoughts on alcohol use though. It can be very helpful.
aspro said:This is something that I've thought about a lot today actually, as I was thinking about Google Buzz and social media and why it threatens me.
But, in addition to being non-social, I'm also very private, so I can't elaborate much here.
I would encourage you to challenge your thoughts on alcohol use though. It can be very helpful.
(couldn't resist)
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Tell me to get back to rewriting this site so it's not horrible on mobileI thought it was a girl getting locked in the supply closet, unless this happened on multiple occasions.
Oh, right, I remember now...Yes, it did happen on multiple occasions. haha. Put someone in the hall and see if they make faces at the window.
I only encourage you to at least try to not be alone. They way you have posted in your last few blogs makes it seem like not only have you put your expectations low but will put no effort into exceeding those expectations. It sounds like you are defeated already, a lot can happen, don't give up hope. As for me first I need to get my career and life situation straightened out. I can't go out much without money. After that then I will see where life takes me but I stay positive.
In the end the most important question to ask is are you happy. It doesn't mean you have to get married, have kids, be rich, it just means that you are satisfied with your life. If you are not then work on it, don't give up. I wish I can help more but yeah, we are similar in ways, so I will do my best to support and keep things positive.
Dvader said:If you are not then work on it, don't give up. I wish I can help more but yeah, we are similar in ways, so I will do my best to support and keep things positive.
The amount done by you as a part of this site is more than you could imagine. This isn't just grueling work that just had to get done, it was an existing and ongoing project from which I reap the benefits of the investment daily. Cumulatively here, through development and participation, I have greatly improved my programming, administration, design, communication. And most of all, it's a daily dose of awesome.
Right now my head is just spinning having a whole bunch of external issues. More confusion than hopelessness for the time-being. At least it's a change.
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Tell me to get back to rewriting this site so it's not horrible on mobile
Back in grade school, I had a teacher who listed out human needs. Water, air, food, shelter, and companionship. That last one struck me; his demonstration was to stick an obnoxious student who thrives on attention in the hall to see if he tries to get noticed; needless to say I wasn't convinced.
I'll need to give you some backstory on myself. You could say I never was particularly normal -- the high-point of my social life was before my family moved cities...when I was six. Since then, it's been a rather linear progression as I further and further drifted from relating to others. I've tried to see where I fit, and frankly I don't. Not to say that's good or bad or anyone's fault, it just is. So long ago, earlier than you would expect, I've had the understanding that I would live my life primarily alone, and have been mentally preparing myself as such.
It was never perfect; I had always wanted, at the least, just one person to completely relate to and for it to be mutual. That said, after spending a year working in a call centre, when I finally left, it was gone. Dead. I whole-heartedly enjoyed being alone following that, and it scared me. It was like living in a shell. Over time, I've been able to revive some feeling inside, yet it manages to confuse things all the more. A curious little curse that is, feel nothing or feel pain.
At any rate, that leads me to today. Essentially the only time I have human interaction face-to-face is once a week when I have lab work at University with a partner. As stupid as it is, and despite my failed efforts to understand it, I walk out of the class feeling better than I have in years. A short-lived high, but it's helps for a day.
And that brings us back around to those needs. Water, air, food, shelter. Companionship. I thought I could do this alone, and I've been trying for years, but something's got to give. I'm not healthy right now, at least, not by any fair definition -- a healthy person does not feel like this -- and it only progresses. Problem is, that doesn't change who I am or anyone else is. Society around here relates drinking with fun, and the only people who don't drink are either recovering alcoholics or deeply religious. Kinda puts the atheist non-drinker out. Of course, it's entirely possible to get along with people very different than myself, I tend to get along with a majority of people, but I've found that's limiting, for lack of a better term.
I am who I am, and I put my integrity first and foremost, so certain things will never change. I also don't particularly think my evaluation of a life alone is wrong, either. I'm just not so sure that list of needs was off-base.
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Tell me to get back to rewriting this site so it's not horrible on mobile