Well guys. Here I am. I've been lurking this place during the last few days whenever I was in need of some distraction. Which you lot provided. You're comments and everything were a great support. I even sensed some extra strong support from down under, half a world away.
I was going to write a whole lot more. What happened, how the last few days have been. But there's little point in doing so. Here's to my baby girl, may she find the peace she lacked in her short life.
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Man this place has been rough lately. I wish you well, and yeah get the bills waved.
Well, we haven't received the bills yet, so we haven't been able to calculate how much this will cost us in the end.
They have those kinds of lawyers in the UK? This isn't the United States of Hollywood GG, and I certainly don't want to get some form of personal gain out of this. If some doctor had amputated my wrong foot by accident I can see me wishing some form of compensation for that, but this is on such a different level. It'd feel wrong to get personal gain from this and why bother, nothing is going to bring her back.
Yeah, that ain't going to happen. She's still going through rough times, and even at the best of times doing paperwork for her equals asking me to do it for her
Also, thanks for the spelling, I couldn't be arsed to look it up myself.
You shouldn't see it as personal gain. Just as a small way of making them pay for their mistake or negligence. As Leo said, this would force them to be much more careful and professional in the future and this would only help other families not to suffer from the same mistakes you are suffering.
If you end up making more in compensation than you are asked to pay for medical bills, I understand what you say about feeling wrong or unethical to make money from this. You could donate it to a children's hospital like Great Ormond Street or a charity of your choice.
In any case, money would not put right the terrible thing that happened to your family but think that it could help prevent it from happening to others, and that would be a positive to come out of something so terrible.
Things have already changed for the better. We were told of 2 great changes to hospital procedure and policy were made already as a direct result of what happened to us. Personally, I don't think hitting their wallet would encourage them to change anything. Anyhow, maybe I'll feel differently about this once we receive the bills. For now, I just want to let it rest.
Anesthesiologist turned my father into a vegetable due to an error about 4 years ago, and we all are suffering the consequences of it. The surgery was otherwise a success, so he is doomed to be kept alive in his husk for many years, but the toll on his bride is devastating.
You are right about the wallet, it is better to have reform in practices, no point in fighting with their insurance company for fifteen years.
I am plussing you for your stance on reform versus personal gain. I am very sorry for you and what happened to your father. In this day and age, it is just very hard to find peace with the idea that not everything is 100% controllable and can be solved or cured.
^Yeah, as I have gotten older I understand that we are a part of nature, and death and loss is as natural a part of life as gain and jubilation. There is a random quality to survival that cannot be attributed to merit, honour or anything else. Living on a farm has taught me a lot. At first you think it's not fair, then you realise death and illness has nothing to do with "fair". It's like an element of weather, it just is.
Couldn't have said it better. Just randomness and probability.
Yes, we have no win no fee lawyers here, lots of them.
Our NHS also means we don't pay medical bills unless we go private. In terms of getting compensation I was more thinking about it because you had to pay medical bills.